Who doesnâ€™t love reading another reader success story?
This one comes from a reader who has benefited from the eCourse offered in the VIP Self Improvement Newsletter
â€“ How to Maximize the Power of Your Mind
(learn what you were never taught in school about how your mind works).
The application of the advice in it has given him more peace of mind in his personal and professional life, which is something most people would love to have.
I thought his story would benefit those who have been in his situation before so upon hearing of his success in an email he sent to me, I sent him a list of questions to better help frame his story so that others will be able to benefit from it and hopefully apply the advice he gives in it.
Below are the results of the Q & A. I want to thank Christopher for taking the time to do this. I really appreciate it.
Can you please tell us a little bit about yourself?
My name is Christopher, and I went to college for biology and now work for a scientific company, providing technical service on the companyâ€™s pH and water analysis equipment. I hope to go back to school for an MBA degree.
How did you come to find BrianKim.net?
I read a few business blogs, including one from Ford Harding on becoming a rainmaker. One article he had talked about the difference between introverts and extroverts, a topic of interest to me. That article also indirectly referenced information on the Brain Kim website, and I have been checking out the website ever since.
You mentioned that one of the most helpful things in the newsletter was learning how to â€ścatchâ€ť your negative thoughts? What kind of negative thoughts did you find yourself catching and how did you deal with them afterwards?
Mostly they were thoughts of insecurity. This included thinking that I do not perform the best of my ability at my job, anxiety about meeting a nice girl and having a relationship with her, having plans for the weekend, my career, etc . Afterwards, after reading articles on your website, I caught myself thinking negatively and just started thinking positive thoughts, and reinforcing them, by talking positively about things, out loud. Choosing to see the glass as half full instead of half empty. After all, according to your blog, it is all about choice.
You mentioned that taking control of your mind in terms of catching those negative thoughts and thinking in more positive terms has given you peace of mind in a lot of situations in your life. Can you please tell us a little bit more about in what kinds of ways you started thinking in more positive terms?
When I think, consciously or subconsciously, I used to feel like my thoughts and fears â€śbrought me downâ€ť. Now, since reinforcing my thinking process to be positive, I seem to have a better outlook, and more peace of mind in my personal and professional lives.
Can you please elaborate on the situations youâ€™ve outlined in terms of how changing your thinking has helped give you peace of mind in them and possibly give us some examples?
How has that helped give you peace of mind at your job?
I work in a technical position dealing with customers, which can be very stressful. Positive thoughts here, give me peace of mind, to be able to have resilience and not let the job stress enter into my personal life. It helped me to learn how to compartmentalize my job experiences and my personal life so that the two do not mix. It also helped be have better focus and not worry about my personal life when I am assisting customers.
How has that helped give you peace of mind with your friends?
It lets me realize, you canâ€™t control everything and that people are going to have opinions, including your friends. It gave me the strength to accept that, and to not be bothered by what my friends say, and to take certain things with a grain of salt.
How has that helped give you peace of mind with regard to learning how to talk to women better and less aggressively?
Positive thoughts help to give me more patience, a quality which I lacked. This patience allows me to let the girl have the time to call me back instead of me calling aggressively and too much.
How has that helped give you peace of mind with regard to letting close people know about your feelings/intentions?
I learned not to let my fears get the best of me, and to tell people how I truly feel instead of leaving it bottled up inside, only to drive me crazy. Plus, now I really donâ€™t care if people like or hate the fact I tell them how I feel. That is their problem, not mine, to deal with. It is my right and freedom to tell folks how I feel, and whatever happens, happens.
How does it feel knowing that youâ€™re more aware of your thoughts now and that you have peace of mind with regard to so many areas of your life?
This is a no brainer; it feels wonderful to be able to think more positively and have a little more control of my life. Yes, I canâ€™t control everything and there is the whole fate thing, but at least I can control more than I could before.
What kind of advice would you give to those who are still in that vicious negative thinking cycle?
Donâ€™t let your past eat you up inside. Donâ€™t let fear rule your life. Fear is the mind-killer. Live. Learn. Love. Everything happens for a reason.
Any last pieces of advice you want to give to motivate and inspire others to start becoming more conscious of their thoughts, to catch those negative thoughts, and to start thinking more positively?
If you happen to notice that when you are thinking, the thoughts seem to be mostly negative, try writing the thoughts down on paper and then trying to substitute a good thought for every bad thought, and over time, your outlook and thought process should get better.
I want to thank Christopher for taking the time to answer the questions and for sharing it as well. I really appreciate it!
Taking control of your internal dialogue is such an important thing to do and itâ€™s something most people never get around to doing because they think they canâ€™t.
But you can.
And when you take control of it by â€ścatchingâ€ť any negative internal dialogue you find yourself having and start substituting positive ones like Christopher has, you really start maximizing the power of your mind.
Christopher offers some great advice when he says to write your negative thoughts down on paper and to substitute positive ones thereafter (for more information on positive thinking you can sign up for the VIP newsletter
and also read this article â€“ How to Harness the Power of Positive Thinking
When you take the time to write down those thoughts, you really become aware of them so in essence, you â€śtagâ€ť them so when they come up again, youâ€™re more conscious of them so you can take the correct actions to substitute them.
I would even take that piece of advice a step further and shred that piece of paper with the negative thought written on it to symbolize its destruction.
The mind is such an incredible tool we all have at our disposal but the problem is that we were not given any instruction manuals on it so people are just letting it run and have suffered the consequences of negative thinking as a result.
And thatâ€™s the thing about negative thinking â€“ itâ€™s so easy to do.
You donâ€™t really have to do anything. It just seems to run on auto-pilot.
If you donâ€™t take control of your thinking, thatâ€™s all that will appear in your mind.
To use a simple analogy, if you donâ€™t take the time to plant anything in the garden of your mind, weeds will grow automatically.
Catch those weeds.
Pull them out.
And sow seeds of positive thoughts.
And you will begin reap the many benefits like peace of mind in all areas of your life like Christopher has that so many others have sought.