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How to Get Out of a Job You Hate

By: Brian Kim - May 8, 2007

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Hate is a pretty strong word, but I think a lot of people out there will agree that its use is justified in this article. I don’t need to cite any statistics or reports to tell you that there are a lot of people out there who absolutely hate their jobs. You probably know at least one person in your social circle who can relate to that.

They hate it to the point where they feel sick to their stomach going to work every morning. They feel dread on Sunday afternoon, knowing that in less than 12 hours, they have to go back for another week of hell.

The reasons vary – the job is not well suited to their personality, bad management, bad co-workers, meager pay, with most people feeling like small cogs in a well oiled business machine.

So how do you get out of a job you hate? It would be really easy to say “Just quit” wouldn’t it?

But alas, life is not so easy. There are bills to pay, stomachs to feed, things to buy, so these circumstances chain us in a seemingly never ending cycle.

What’s even worse is when you’re stuck in a career you hate.

A lot of people pursue a career for the money only to find they don’t like it, and get stuck in it in the sense that they only accrue experience specific to that career and unknowingly pigeon hole themselves in that career by doing so.

To help with this hidden epidemic, here is a step by step method you can use to help get you out of a job/career you absolutely hate and into one that you'll absolutely love.

1. Simply your life. Simplify, simplify, simplify.

What a lot of people seem to do is purchase expensive or unnecessary products and services to alleviate and distract them from the pain of working in jobs they hate.

Big screen HDTVs, cable TV, expensive cars, etc., and what this does is further dig them in a hole. How so?

With these new purchases, they become more enslaved in debt AND time. Not only are their resources put toward things that won’t help them get out of a job/career they hate, their time is diverted elsewhere, time and resources that can be used to tackle the problem dead on, rather than avoid it.

I constantly get emails from people who “have it all” from society’s point of view. Expensive car, the latest gadgets, beautiful wife, yet they feel unfulfilled and dread going to work everyday and that’s no way to live at all.

Most people get the whole equation backwards. They work in jobs they hate but do it anyway and buy material items to look “successful” in other people’s eyes, and continue to do so in order to keep up the charade, all in the meantime having their insides twist and turn every time they pull into work.

The main reasons why you should simplify your life are to give you the time and resources to focus on getting out of the job you hate and into a job/career/business you’ll love.

There are tons of ways to simplify your life.

Cut the TV and the cable. (so you can free time and brainpower) Buy a used car. Move to a smaller residence. Stop eating out so much (huge factor) Learn to cook. Sell what you don’t need. Keep track of what you spend everyday (it really adds up) Do you really need Starbucks everyday? The bus is a great way to travel (especially with gas prices these days). Save your loose change.

By no means am I telling you to become a monk and live in the mountains. All I’m saying is start to differentiate between needs and wants and discipline yourself to simplify your life and what you’ll find is that you’ll be pleasantly surprised at just how much time and money you can actually save.

When you simplify your life, you’ll find yourself with more time and resources on your hands. What do you do with those precious resources?

2. Develop Cross Marketable Skills.

This is where a lot of people get stuck. You can spend all the time you want accruing experience, but that will only serve to trap you in your current career, which is exactly what you don’t want if you hate your job/career.

Developing cross marketable skills is what will help free you to pursue other job opportunities and careers.

Cross marketable meaning that they will serve you in any job or career, regardless of industry.

What are some cross marketable skills to develop?

Selling/Persuasion – selling yourself and your ideas to others – this skills is needed more often than you think.

When you’re on the interview, what are you essentially doing? When you want a raise, what are you doing? When you suggest implementing your idea, what are you doing?

There is nothing sleazy about selling. Many people associate selling with ripping the other party off. Not so. If the product/services is good, which is YOU, learning how to sell yourself and your ideas should be your top priority. There are a ton of books on this subject and it wouldn’t hurt to read some of them.

Creativity – technology is replacing a lot of jobs that involve routine. A simple example is the cashier. Most places are equipped with self check out stands now. Creativity is the ONE thing that will NEVER be replaced by technology. NEVER. Developing this quality will separate you from the pack.

Effective Communication – I don’t think I need to explain this one.

Social Skills – most jobs will require interaction with people so it would be prudent to learn how to interact with people.

Self Leadership – nothing is more satisfying than knowing you can count on yourself to get the job done. And nothing is more satisfying to employers than knowing you have the self leadership to get the job done as well. No looking over the shoulder. Complete peace of mind. It’s been delegated, it will be done.

Time Management – this is a subset of self leadership and it wouldn’t hurt to learn how to manage your time efficiently as well.

Technology Skills - especially computer related skills. If you’re still having trouble with computers, it would be wise to invest some time in money and learn how to utilize them. Technology is one of the most effective forms of leverage for any business and businesses will continue to use them so you might as well hop on board if you haven’t already done so.

* Note: These skills will help regardless of whether you choose to go down the employee or entrepreneur path.

Develop these intangible skills and you’ll have a nice edge you can bring to the table.

3. Find What You Love to Do in the Meantime.

Again, if you’ve simplified your life, you’ll have time and resources on your hands. You use these precious resources to develop your cross marketable skills AND to find what you love to do.

How do you find what you love to do? I’ve written an article about it here. I've also written a very comprehensive book on the subject due to huge demand from readers entitled: How to FINALLY Find What You Love to Do AND Get Paid For Doing It: The DEFINITIVE Guide To Finding and Successfully Pursuing Your Passion. When you find what you love, spend time on that subject. Become an expert on it.

The great thing about this is that you will naturally become on expert on the subject you love because you spend so much time on it.

You read books about it; you think about it all day long, you practice it.

If you think about it, that’s ultimately what we get paid for – expertise. That’s the bottom line.

Programmers get paid because of their expertise in programming software. Project managers get paid because of their expertise in managing projects. Accountants get paid because of their expertise in crunching numbers.

Expertise is a natural byproduct of pursuing what you love to do and people will pay for expertise.

4. Develop Skills, Knowledge, and Experience Related to What You Love to Do.

With your newfound time and resources, this should be easy and natural to do as well.

Skills will become a natural byproduct of spending time doing what you love to do and practicing it.

Knowledge will be a natural byproduct as well. You’ll want to know all about the subject you’re passionate about so you’ll read the newspapers, books, articles, etc., that are related to what you love to do.

With all the time and knowledge and skills you accrue, all of that morphs into experience.

Here’s a really simple example to put together everything we’ve discussed so far.

You’ve simplified your life. You’ve cut down on expenses. You find yourself having freed the precious resources of time and money. You develop your cross marketable skills. You spend your time figuring out what you love to do and you find it and let’s say for example’s sake, it’s making people laugh, telling jokes, stand up comedy, etc.

What now?

Rather than spending money on buying rims for your car, you start buying stand up comedy material from Chris Rock to Jerry Seinfeld. You spend your time thinking of jokes and anecdotes to tell rather than watching the latest episode of Lost. You seek out a mentor and convince him (thanks to developing your cross marketable skill of persuasion) to help guide you in this new career. You read the books. You try some stand up at a local bar. You apply for a night gig at the local comedy shop, etc.

You see how all of these steps intertwine to help one another?

5. Job Hunt / Start Your Own Business

When you’ve done all this – simplified your life to free up time and resources to develop cross marketable skills and find what you love and developed skills, experience, and knowledge related to that, something inside of you will begin to shine.

You begin to have purpose. You have direction. You’re going somewhere, rather than having that hopeless feeling of being “stuck” in the job/career you hate.

And with that newfound momentum, it’s time to job hunt or start your own business doing what you love to do. This will be easier to do since you've developed those cross marketable skills and accrued skills, knowledge, and experience doing what you love to do, hence making you an expert.

6. Quit Your Job.

The time in which you quit your job is entirely up to you.

Some people may be able to do steps 1-5 while working at their job.

Others may find that to not be the case.

In any event, steps 1-3 CAN be done while working at your current job (simplify your life, develop cross marketable skills, find what you love to do).

If you feel that you won’t have enough time to do steps 4-5 while working at your current job, you can wait until you’ve saved enough money from step 1 to live for three months.

You can then find a part time job that will keep them afloat while you engage in steps 4 and 5.

Quitting your job is a powerful motivator because when you MUST do something, you WILL do it. If you keep telling yourself that you’ll do it later, you’ll always be stuck at your job. Quitting your job serves like a good kick in the pants. Just make sure you have something to fall back on before you do it. When you’re doing what you love to do, the payoff is so much better. Your health will improve. You’ll be less depressed. Your relationships with friends and family will improve as well. You’ll actually be eager to wake up Monday morning.

The journey you go through from simplifying your life to pursuing your passion, it may be full of ups and downs but in the end, it’s worth it. It really is worth it.

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61 Responses to “How to Get Out of a Job You Hate”

  1. Shaun Says:

    Great article. I recently left a job that would daily cause me to feel unfulfilled — and I couldn’t agree more with all that you’ve written here. Thanks for the great read.

  2. Brian Kim Says:

    Hi Shaun,

    Thanks for the kind words. I really appreciate it.

    I’m glad you left the job that made you unfulfilled. It’s worth it ;)


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  5. Tejvan Pettinger Says:

    Interesting article. I wouldn’t say I hate my job, some aspects I quite like. But, I’m trying hard to be independent and become self employed. Not easy, but, it can be done - thanks to blogging. :)

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  7. Supreet Says:

    Hello Dear Brian,

    Important question first: I bought your book online, but it accidentally got deleted. Do I have to buy it again? I can probably send you my e-mail confirmation, if I still have that. Please advise.

    I am stuck at a job that I dread going to everyday. I looked forward to working after finishing university because I enjoy working as I always try to do my best. I never thought that I could get a job that I wouldn’t enjoy because I thought doing your best is what makes you enjoy it. Well, all that changed when I got my current job. Funny though, my heart kept telling me not to accept it as deep down I knew I wouldn’t like it. I accepted it for the money - BIG mistake. Now I know how money doesn’t matter. Last week when I got my check, I threw it away in disgust (of course, I picked it up again…hehe). Going through a week like hell isn’t worth it.

    Luckily, I know I am in a career that I like, no doubts about that, but I’m in the wrong job. This article is an outline of what I was planning to do. I already live a simple life and don’t spend a lot on things, so one big step out of the way. Reading your article has given me ideas about how I can use my current job to learn important transferable skills like communication, self management etc. Thanks for your work and efforts!

  8. Brian Kim Says:

    Hi Supreet,

    Thank you very much for your encouraging words. I really appreciate it.

    And don’t worry about buying the book again. I just emailed you the link to download them so please check your inbox when you have a chance.

    I’m sorry to hear you’re stuck at a job you dread going to everyday but on the other hand, it’s great to see that you learned that money does not matter and that you’re living a simple life. It will make the transition out of your job that much easier.

    I hope this article has given you the “fodder” you need to get out of your current job and into one you love.

    Thanks again.

  9. Supreet Says:

    Thank you, much appreciated.

  10. JerrySpock Says:

    Great article, just what I needed right now. Thanks!

  11. Brian Kim Says:

    You’re very welcome Supreet and you as well Jerry. I’m glad you got to read it when you needed to.

  12. Kyle Says:

    Im currently in the role you described “people who “have it all” from society’s point of view. Expensive car, the latest gadgets, beautiful wife, yet they feel unfulfilled and dread going to work everyday and that’s no way to live at all.”

    Its not all bad but unfortunately, I hate more than I like about the job. I am more sickened by the “have it all” appearance that I produce.

    I would give it all away in a second, for a job that Im passionate about. Thankfully, I am in the equivalent to your stage 5 listed above and feel that im less than 18 months away from step 5.

  13. Brian Kim Says:


    Thanks for sharing your current situation with us. I’m sure there are others out there who can relate to it.

    It’s great to see that you’re in the equivalent of Stage 5 rignt now and that you’ll soon be closing the gap to the next step in the coming year and a half.

    It will take time, but in the end, it will be worth every second of it.

  14. Kevin J Says:


    Amazing advice! So amazing, in fact, I’m not going to turn in my notice at work tomorrow until I have a well thought out plan. I had planned to turn in my notice tomorrow and quit my job as a programmer (details at http://ratracedrop.blogspot.com ) but after reading your advice, I can see I need a little more forethought on my part. To be honest, I don’t have much in the way of debt because I never really subscribed to the “keep up with the Joneses” mentality. I do have some money saved up that I could get by on for a while, but I really need to have a plan on what I’m going to do next before cutting off my cash flow, I suppose. The thing is, I really do hate my job and it’s getting worse by the day. Some days it takes all of my strength just to get out of my car and walk into my place of work. If my willpower wasn’t so strong, I’d probably crank the car again, drive back out onto the interstate, and drive home and play video games for the rest of the day.
    Anyway, thanks for the advice. I’ll be checking back with you!

  15. Supreet Says:

    This is in response to Kevin J’s message.

    It’s funny how similar my situation is. I feel exactly how you feel about getting out of the car and walk in to the building. I also drive by a highway on my way to work and some days I just want to take a turn, get on the highway and drive far far away…where nobody can find me.

    I’ve gotten very close to quitting sometimes but then I thought it wouldn’t be very smart to quit before having another plan.

    Good luck to you!!

  16. Brian Kim Says:


    Thanks for the kind words. I really appreciate it!

    It’s great to see you taking a proactive approach to getting out of that job you hate and it will take time and preparation, but you’ll realize in the end that it was all worth it.

    Keep up the great work and you as well Supreet!

  17. OMH Says:

    I just got through another day at a job I dread. I know I’m young and people say that this is still a learning phase, but after 5 months at my job, nothing’s gotten better. Everyday there’s some new thing to do that I either don’t know how to do or I am not given sufficient budget to do. I also run into situations where, since I’m the new guy, I have to ask others for more work to do. If they don’t have anything for me, I’m screwed! And then at the end of the pay period I have to fill out a time sheet for all these hours where I honestly wasn’t given that much work to bill. AAAAAHHHHHH. I feel so burnt out on the drive home and sometimes I know I’m moody around my wife because of it. I really love her and I don’t want to be like that around her. Sorry for rambling, this has felt really good to get all this out to some people who can maybe empathize with my situation.

  18. Mel Says:

    Very intelligent advice but as it says in the beginning that quitting your job isnt easy, nor is it easy to follow these steps, it still depends on your life circumstances and finances and what it is that is your passion. My passion is science, it’s very hard to try and do a uni course in science as well as stay on your feet financially and then if you have a stressful family life and other emotional issues as well it is even harder. Not to be a party pooper or wet blanket though just telling you my experiences. But maybe I am just weak or something….

  19. 2 weeks from freedom Says:

    Great article. I am putting in my 2 weeks at my job tomorrow. After 2 years of frustration, I’ve decided I won’t work for nor will I market for a company I don’t believe in. I have something else lined up, although its a pay cut (a little scared!) I will be more happy. I will have to focus on numero uno - downsizing, streamlining and simplyfying my life!

    Thanks for the great advice!

  20. alex Says:

    I absolutely hate my job! I'’ve been wanting to leave it for two years but couldn’t because it actually pays very well. I needed to read this. Thank you, Brian. Hopefully, I’ll be able to work things out and finally quit!

  21. John Pittenger Says:

    What happens when technology changes your very career? For the worst! I used to love coming to work at the ——-Metropolitan Library system.I love reading and books and the people who read them. Now as we become “Fast Info’ and “Self serve” we no longer interact with out “patrons”(we even call them “customers” now! We are geared to providing web site , computer time and fast, fast (even if not completly accurate )information. Help! Where do I go to get my library back?

  22. Keana Says:

    Great article…
    I ended up with a new job that pays same money but more hours, no promised raise!!!! and terribel co-workers:((
    I was ready to go to a doctor, really…

  23. Scott Fraley Says:

    Hey Brian,

    That was a great article but I need a little extra advice. I tried the whole self starter route to begin with on similar advice to what you suggest here (and failed miserably). After 6 months of searching in a bad economy, I found my current, low pay/high stress/no satisfaction job.

    Now I’m stuck in a rut similar to what you described, but instead of buying luxuries, I’m choosing between shelter and gasoline.

    What do you suggest I do?

  24. Brian Kim Says:


    Feel free to rant. It’s good to get it out of your system. Just turn that frustration into energy to get out of that job and into one that you’ll love!


    There are certainly extenuating circumstances and it depends on each individual but as they say, when there’s a will, there’s a way!

    2 weeks,

    Congratulations! And thanks for sharing as well. I’m sure things will work out for the better!


    I hope it all works out!


    That’s an interesting observation you bring up. Unfortunately, as I’m not that familiar with the Library system, I can’t give you an answer.


    No job is worth it if it begins to negatively affect your health. See if you can find another one that’s more suited for you.


    I suggest you SAVE first. Even though you need all the money for necessities. Save at least 10% first. This will FORCE you to find other ways to make money.

    2nd, try to reduce your shelter and gas expenses. Maybe get a roommate, carpool, take the bus, etc.

    Once you have a good enough savings under your belt, you’ll have more opportunities available to you.

  25. Sanjo Says:

    Hi Brian,
    Thanks for this article. I am sitting here right now DREADING going to work. I started reading this and damned if that ain’t me! All of your suggestions, are things that I am already in the process of doing, so hopefully that is a sign that I am on the right track.

  26. Brian Kim Says:


    You’re very welcome.

    It’s great to see you’re already doing the things listed in the article and that is most definitely a great sign.

    So keep on trucking. Things will come around soon enough.


  27. Rudy Says:

    I agree. Simplification is a great way to get out of job you hate. Many of us work because of money. If we can eliminate a lot of our frivolous wants, then we can reduce our need for money, which allows us to leave crappy jobs we hate.

  28. david Says:

    i am so glad that I read this article, it has really changed my way of thinking.I worked at a job for about three years. I thought that it was the most terible job ever. I just knew that I would be happier working for another company. I finally found a job that i thought i would like for sure, but when i started work it was worse than my last job. It is so depressing having to go to work everyday.I think that the most depressing thing is that i have to work at this job for a while now because of my financial situation, but what is really depressing is knowing that i could have been doing what i wanted to, which is going back to school if only i didnt splurge on frivolous wants. I used to be the type of person that had to have the best of the best, but now i have realized that its the simple things in life that really make you happy.I have set some goals for myself to get out of this situation and hopefully all goes well.Thanks for the advice from everyone and even though it sucks for everybody here to dislike there job,it is kind of comforting knowing that im not the only one.Good luck to everyone:-)

  29. Brian Kim Says:

    Rudy and David,

    Very well said.

    Another way to put it is like this - instead of seeking comfort (which is what 99% of people do), seek freedom instead - freedom to do the work you like to do. If you strive for freedom, you can achieve both freedom and comfort.

    If you strive for comfort alone, you will never be free of the cycle.

  30. tameca Says:

    Hi brian this article is like a breath of fresh air to me. I absolutely positively hate my job. Ive told my husband how I feel and he is going to support my decision to quit job. I am sooooo depressed everytime I have to go to work.I was soo depressed today knowing that I had to go to work that I typed in the words on the computer I hate my job and I came across your article.It really opened my eyes . I am going to apply for my money that I have earned for 11 years and get out!

  31. Brian Kim Says:

    Hi Tameca,

    I’m glad you found the article and have taken action on your desire! Not a lot of people can make that decision and go for it but it’s one you won’t regret - especially if you’ve been that depressed about going to work.

    I wish you nothing but success in your future endeavor!


  32. Miserable Says:

    i wish that someone rich would group a portfolio of rental properties aready rented out with tenants …..have people write a page worth of information on “why i want to quit my job”…who ever has the best reasons “wins” the properties which will allow them to have an income without working and learn about real estate that is very lucrative right now “for those who have money”…freeing up their time to go to school and still have a roof over there head and bills payed with no more “sickening depression” from going to a job they hate and being a slave to the people they work for …not get payed enough and be laughed at because your the horses ass that keeps coming back every day ….that fact that you continue to hang in there for your life should be considered admiral but instead considered desperate and deemed by evil people that your now worthy of decency and respect and therefore subject to any cruelty their evil minds can come up with ….go ahead spit on the floor and while your bent over go ahead and shit to ….old so and so will clean it up …..well im sure that a lot of people are ready for their spit and shit days to end ….so if your rich and your reading this find someone in this situation thats worthy and help them out….

  33. Rodney Says:

    this article makes perfect sense and gives me hope. I know that sounds corny, but when you support two kids and a wife with a job you dreadfully hate, this type of advice is like chicken soup for the soul. The bad thing is, I KNOW I need to do all these things and still cant. Its like I am addicted in some odd way to my dreadful job. I hate is so much, but cant find the courage to change it. I will continue to try. Thank you.

  34. Alan Furth Says:

    Excellent post!

    During my own journey of re-discovering my true passions and going after them, I learned that being stuck in a job you hate can also be a big block to accomplish Step 3 — it might be very difficult to find what we love while dedicating most of our time and energy to something we hate.

    And it’s not only a matter of not having time or physical energy to educate ourselves and reflecting upon what we really want to do. It’s mostly about the soul-crushing effect that working in something we hate can have on us, engulfing us in an apathetic, depressive psychological state that destroys our capacity for introspection, positive reflection and creative discovery.

    Also, our brains seem to be wired to rationalize our choices, specially when issues of self-worth are at stake. By a subtle, subconscious process, we become blind towards the evidence that contradicts the fact that we have chosen a wrong career, and that confirms that we are conforming to a mediocre level of self-realization.

    By stepping away from the work we hate we enable our minds to clearly perceive and objectively evaluate the options for fulfilling work that might be right there in front of our noses, but we have failed to notice while asleep under the effect of the anesthetic of conformism .

    I elaborate on how I dealt with these issues a couple of months ago while being stuck in a line of business that I was no longer aligned with what I love:


  35. JD Says:

    This article is for me, Brian. I’m definitely in a job I hate. I’ve had some real stinkers before but the one I’m currently in I literally hate. I dread each day. The other morning, before going to work, I curled up in the fetal position on my bed and started crying. My wife encouraged me to take a ‘mental health day’, which I did.

    Feeling locked in and trapped there is killing me and I know it’s affecting my health. We made a few bad decisions and cross country moves and now the creditors own us. Can’t get ahead, I’m the only one working. It’s awful and my spirit is crushed.

    But your article gives me a ray of hope. I sat here and Googled ‘hate my job’ and this site came up. I do have interests outside the workplace and I know what I love to do. But I’m not in a position to just up and quit financially (thus the feeling of being trapped).

    Thanks for the article.

  36. D Says:

    I also googled “hate my job!” It actually makes me feel better knowing I need a plan and starting one, thanks for the article Brian. I sometimes feel like JD; I totally relate. I feel “not normal” hating my job so much, I mean, everyone has to work, right? People do it for years and years, but for me, it’s so depressing to think I need to do this for 20-30 years or more before I can retire. I have been left thinking “what’s wrong with me? why do I hate working so much?” Honestly my job isn’t always so bad, I think it’s being locked into it that makes me feel so much worse, like I’m trapped. It’s not “what” I do that I hate, it’s just this feeling that I “have” to do this, 8-10 hours a day forever! So I have decided to live more simply to get out of debt. My hope is that by doing so I won’t feel as trapped, and then I can possibly look for a more fulfilling job. Now I just need to figure out what that might be. Or who knows I might continue in this field, just, maybe in a different situation.

    I recently told a friend that “I don’t know what to do about my work, I have to figure something out” and she didn’t really understand. He said “what do you mean?, work is work, we just have to do it” I thought to myself, NOOOOOOOOO this can’t be true, I need a plan, a plan that will keep me focused and motivated. Surely I can do something! right?

    I want to say thanks to JD for the post, it’s quite candid and makes me feel better knowing I’m not alone!!! I’ve also made a few bad decisions and got in debt, but I’m determined to get out from under this and stop feeling trapped! I wish I had come across this site and the posts from others sooner, this venting really helps! :D Best of luck to everyone!

  37. Brian Kim Says:


    Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.

    I’m sure you’re not alone in the way you feel.

    Here are two articles that I think might be able to help:




    Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts.


    You’re very welcome.

    And thanks for sharing your story as well. I’m sure you’re not alone and there are many other people out there who can relate.

    Just take it one day at a time.

    Set up a plan to deal with your creditors and then set up another plan that will help you free yourself financially and work on that one day at a time as well.


    Thanks for sharing your story as well. I’m sure JD will find it refreshing that he is not alone as well.

    I’m sure both of you will be able to make the best of your situations and get on your way to making a plan to get out from under your respective traps!

    I suggest the both of you pick up my books as they will help you find what you love to do and also help you naturally achieve it once you do.

  38. Richard Smith Says:

    I am in my fifties I am doubtful that I can make nay change in career that would not be devastating.
    I do not have a college degree yet I am working in a fairly high administrative position.
    I hate it. I have been at this for several years and frankly I firmly beleive it should be illegal to pay any administrator more than minimum wage. This would eliminate 90% of the economic waste in the world.

  39. RM Says:

    I very much feel trapped in my job…I dread it each and everyday, but the thing that keeps me here are the benefits. I’ve worked for my company for 12 years now, I have 4 weeks vacation, and decent pay. However…because of the economy, my industry has gone through some major changes. My job used to be enjoyable. Now, it is nothing but one negative email or phone call, one after the other, all day…constantly. I would love to find something that I could do on my own, and make my own schedule…but to be honest, I have NO idea what else I’d be good at…one thing is for sure. I hate what I do now…and I’m really burned out of my industry. I will be buying your book. Wish me luck.

  40. Brian Kim Says:


    I’m sorry to hear that you you feel that way.


    Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. I’m sorry to hear you’re going through right now.

    You can look at it this way though - those events are finally giving you the leverage to step out of that situation and into something that will be more promising and I know the book will help you find out what that direction is.

  41. Navegador Says:

    Hi Brian,
    this page contains some great advice. I googled “I hate my job” during a particularly desperate day and just reading your piece made me feel so much better. I don’t really hate my present job as much as (deeply) regret my career choice. I should’ve gone into a science/tech-related career (engineering, programming etc.) instead of languages and PR/Journalism, and and feel how wrong I was every single day. I’ve managed to climb quickly in my career and now (at 30) I am in a rather prestigious PR position in a State government, with a good salary and managing a good team. However, it’s clear to everybody that I’m not doing a great job and I think it all comes down to a lack of love and dedication - to put it simply, I just hate what I do, and in government/political PR, with immense pressure, stress and the need to really believe in what you’re saying (something I can’t bring myself to do) that’s simply unacceptable.
    I’m really unhappy, and I need to find the time to study Computer Science and get out of this quagmire of a career. Trouble is, I work 10-12-hour days, I just finished paying off the debt I have (so I can’t quit right now) and I’m not even sure my employers will keep me til the end of the year.
    Any advice at all from you would be great.

    Cheers and congratulations on a great website!

  42. soulless worker Says:

    Wow, Brian I have the same regret. Hating your job is one thing, but being in the wrong CAREER is many times worse, especially since you basically have to start from scratch if you want to switch to a different field. I just graduated college with a degree in accounting and work as an accountant, but wish I had majored in engineering. How can I be motivated to do my best every day at work when virtually none of my accomplishments and skills and expertise in accounting will carry over to what I really want to do (engineering)? Since this is my first full-time job, I have decided to continue on until I can’t stand it anymore or until 2 years is up, whichever happens last. That way I will at least have a couple years of job experience to show that I know how to be a responsible worker (show up on time, work well with others, do good work, etc.). In some weird way, knowing that I will eventually be able to walk away from this job is what gives me the motivation to even get out of bed in the morning. If I knew I had to be there for 30 more years, I don’t know if I could take it.

  43. Brian Kim Says:


    Thanks for the dropping by and for the kind words. I really appreciate it.

    I don’t really know too much about your situation so please take my advice with a grain of salt.

    The most obvious thing would be to see if you can reduce your workload somehow - maybe unload some responsibilities on other employees. Study more during the weekends, or if worse comes to worse, take another job to hold you over until you feel ready to get a job in the field you desire.

    I know you were hoping for a fix all answer but there isn’t usually one aside from the most practical answers.

    Soulless worker,

    I think you answered your own question at the end there. Give yourself a time limit, save as much money as you can and work on your other career path as much as you can during the time limit you give yourself. That in it of itself, knowing there is PURPOSE to your “work” during your time limit will help you get through it and make the transition smoother.

  44. Still Searching Says:

    I hate my job too. I’m in the wrong career. What’s worse is looking for a job while at a job that I hate, especially in this economy. It’s like my second job which I hate even more than my actual job. I feel like I can never just relax when I’m at home because I feel like I should always be looking for a new job, but the motivation to look for a new job is dwindling fast. I totally feel trapped in my current job. I googled “I hate my job” and found this site. From reading all the comments, it helps to know that I’m not alone. Good luck everyone.

  45. Drifter Says:

    I’ve also googled “hate my job” and came across your site. Reading all the comments made me feel a little better about my situation. I have a job that pays peanuts and I hate coming to work every day. Having been without a job for a year I was forced to take this job so I can start paying off my debt, but my heart’s desire is to work at something that I’m passionate about. I’ve been trying for the last two years to figure out what I’m passionate about. Currently I have a few vague leads, but nothing concrete enough to actually put in motion. But I’m not giving up. Once my debt is paid off I will be able to lead the life I desire, go out for a run in the morning while the rest have joined bumper to bumper traffic on their way to work.
    Thanks for the tips, some of it I am already working on, but I now know that I have to have a plan to get out of this hell hole.

    Good luck to everybody : ))

  46. Brian Kim Says:

    Still searching and Drifter,

    I’m glad you guys have found some comfort through the experience of others in the comments.

    I hope things turn out for the best for the both of you.

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  48. dwain Says:

    I’ve been working at the same job for many years now. I got older, I woke up and saw it sucked.
    When your job sucks your life sucks. Companies promise this, that and all the while, your believing
    it. Then one day you wake up and find out it was all a lie. Don’t let it happen to you.
    I am hoping for something better, but hoping and actuality are two different things. While you can;
    learn different skills, not just one and learn skills that can help you get other jobs. If I had
    to do it all over again, I would do it differently, my advice- do the same, and if you think it’s to late keep searching and use your creativity to get out of HELL on the job.

  49. Brian Kim Says:

    Hi Dwain,

    Thanks for sharing your experience on the matter. I really appreciate it. Hopefully the articles on this site can help you find something better!

  50. paul Says:

    Found you through google
    I despise my office and want out
    I feel somewhat depressed and helpless at the moment

  51. Brian Kim Says:

    Hi Paul,

    Let me ask you a question.

    What if you NEED that depression and helplessness?

    What if you need that to get you to take action to make your situation better? To have it serve as a triggering event?

    Just something to think about.

  52. Outta Town Charlie Brown Says:

    My contract at this crappy job ends on June 30. I am counting the minutes until my emancipation. This place sucks and I canʻt wait to get the hell out of Dodge. Nothing lined up yet but I donʻt care. I want out.

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  54. Ray Says:

    Brian, great article. I think you are absolutely right, simplify, simplify and even more simplify.By following your step most people will start to live a more fulfilled life with less stress and anxiety.

  55. Brian Kim Says:

    Charlie Brown,

    I hope your next job will be more pleasant than the one you’re leaving now.


    Couldn’t agree more!

  56. ireshagun Says:

    Thanks for this Brian. I agree about quitting being a good motivator. Many times I think about looking for another job but end up not doing anything. But thanks to your article I’m more determined than ever to seek out something new that will excite me.


  57. Brian Kim Says:

    That’s great to hear Ping! I’m glad the article has helped you take that all important step!

  58. Victoria Says:

    This is exactly how I feel about my job. It is hard to go somewhere you hate everyday. And you only live once! Brian - your articles and emails really help me stay motivated! I just started a blog - because I made a promise to myself that I would not live my life doing something I hate everyday!

  59. Brian Kim Says:

    Hi Victoria,

    It’s great to see you taking the initiative. I hope the articles and emails will help sustain you during the journey.

  60. JC Says:

    My problem is I was in the job I love and always wanted to be in (music business) and now it’s gone. I never wanted to do anything else since I was 5 years old and don’t have a clue what else to do because that has been my passion my whole life. This is the first time in my life that I have ever dreaded going to work. What do you do when your passion goes up in smoke?

  61. Brian Kim Says:

    Hi JC,

    I believe this article may be of service:


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