I want to share with you guys another reader success story that will hopefully motivate, inspire, and give you some great advice, fresh from the mind of someone who found what he loves to do and is currently doing it.
Soyica first emailed me back in October of 2006 and weâ€™ve been in contact ever since. Heâ€™s been telling me of his great progress via email and when I looked back through the emails and saw his story gradually unfold, I asked him if he would like to share it with the world and he gladly accepted.
To cope with both our busy schedules, I sent him a list of questions that will help tell his story and guide readers to see the journey he has taken.
Here it is below. I think youâ€™ll find it quite inspirational.
I want to thank him again for taking the time to do this.
Can you please tell us a little bit about yourself?
Well, Iâ€™m the oldest of three. Iâ€™ve always been a very curious person about life, through learning and sharing what Iâ€™ve learned with others.
When I was quite young, I had a feeling inside that Iâ€™d end up working in the helping profession. My parents are very much into helping other people and that influence really rubbed off on me and my siblings. My parents also taught me to surround yourself with â€ślike mindedâ€ť people. Overall, Iâ€™m pretty easy going and rarely do I get bent out of shape when things donâ€™t go my way.
What happened to you in the 11th grade that became a real motivating force in your life? (I remember the guidance counselor story you told me)
Wow, that was probably the most powerful comment that I had ever heard at the age of 17. One day, I had scheduled a meeting with my guidance counselor to discuss future plans as to college, vocational things you know, career paths to explore.
Brian, I was a solid â€śCâ€ť student. And as we talked about college, she recommended attending a community college to get my grades up for a 4 year degree program at a bigger college. My desire was to attend a college that offered 4 year program. She then made the infamous statement that I will never forget.
â€śYouâ€™re just not college material, and you probably wonâ€™t make it far in your career.â€ť
Now, coming from a family of achieved educators, this did not sit well with me. So, after the meeting, quite sad and depressed, I told my parents what had happened. They simply said, â€śYouâ€™ll go to college, and youâ€™ll graduate.â€ť I applied, was admitted, and graduated. In fact, my last semester, I took 23 credits and maintained a GPA of 3.7. My Guidance Counselor told me, Iâ€™m not â€ścollege material.â€ť That comment changed my outlook on life and I think of it every time Iâ€™m faced with a challenge. I made it happen, despite the odds and it feels great to know that I beat the odds!
Way to turn that negative situation around!
How did you come to find BrianKim.net?
When I arrived to Arizona in September of 2006, I was job searching online. I typed in the search field, â€śHow to find what you love to do.â€ť Brian, your article popped up on that exact title! Iâ€™ve been reading your book and articles ever since.
Youâ€™ve mentioned in our emails about moving to Arizona. Can you tell us a little bit about the story behind the move to Arizona and about the leap of faith that was involved? Where did that faith to take the leap come from?
The move to Arizona was actually something that I had planned a few years earlier. I visited Arizona and found that it was one of the most beautiful, culturally rich places in the country. I said to myself that Iâ€™d like to move here. So, the seed was planted and it took some time, however, the seed was planted and I knew it would happen.
Again, my parents are very spiritually balanced people who taught me to have Faith and that things will ALWAYS work out for the better, no matter what the circumstances may be. There comes a point in which a person just cannot talk about what theyâ€™d like to do. You just have to do it and thatâ€™s all there is to it! Example: You canâ€™t learn how to drive a car by sitting in the passenger seat!
Amen to that!
After moving to Arizona, you also mentioned that in October of 06, you decided to transition into the profession of recreational therapy. Can you tell us a little bit about how that idea came about and what motivated you to go into that field?
Iâ€™ve been working in the field of human services for some time now, so finding a job in this field wasnâ€™t too hard. I also have been a barber since 1994 (another passion of mine). It had gotten to the point in my career where I was saying to myself,â€ť I like helping people, but what is it that I would LOVE to do to help others? I read the article on â€śHow to Find What You Love to Doâ€ť, and found a neutral place to write down the things that I enjoy doing.
After examining the items on my list, I did a search of careers within Human Services that combined those items. Recreational Therapy was my match! So, I contacted several Recreational Therapistâ€™s in Arizona. After a short while, I received some responses from people that have been doing the job. Since then, they have been more than supportive! I started reading and learning as much as possible about it. So, Iâ€™m currently taking the steps to become certified to practice. I learned that if youâ€™re passionate about something, there are people out there that are doing it that will help you along the way!
I remember you told me that when you applied for a recreational therapist position, but you didnâ€™t get the job. Instead, you got the job as a SENIOR level recreational therapist (congratulations!). I know thereâ€™s an interesting story behind there so can you please tell us what happened?
I began to apply for jobs within Recreational Therapy and I was given the chance to interview. I was nervous, but I knew what I wanted to do. So, the interview went great!
However, I didnâ€™t have the specialized experience so I didnâ€™t land the job. It didnâ€™t bother me at all because I was focused on getting in. So, I emailed the people who interviewed me and sent an additional â€śthank youâ€ť letter, indicating that I was still very much interested in working within the field. So I received a phone call a few days later stating that they were really impressed with my interview and they could possibly â€ścreateâ€ť a position for me. So they made a place for me and Iâ€™ll begin training next month! Iâ€™m excited as to how Iâ€™ll grow as an individual through doing something that Iâ€™ll truly enjoy. I learned that when you just stick with it, and show your passion for something, itâ€™ll happen quicker than you may think!
What do you think was the cause of your success?
Les Brown once spoke of being, â€śPatient, Persistence and Positive.â€ť Those 3 Pâ€™s are important to me. I also have a great family and my friendsâ€™ support. But, what works for me is this: I Pray a lot, and I have a lot of Faith. I also STRONGLY believe that youâ€™ve got to be HONEST with yourself. The sooner that youâ€™re Honest with yourself, the easier things will be for you. I feel that when youâ€™re Honest with yourself, most likely, youâ€™ll be Honest with other people. After all, Nobody knows YOU better than yourself.
In addition to Faith and Honesty, I make it a Habit to Think and Speak in the direction that I see myself going. Iâ€™ve eliminated â€śIfâ€ť from my vocabulary and replaced it with â€śWhenâ€ť. Itâ€™s not about if itâ€™ll happen, but when itâ€™ll happen.
What kind of things did you learn along the entire journey from the moment you set that goal, to the moment you achieved and exceeded it?
There were several things that I learned, and, are still learning! Major lessons that Iâ€™ve learned thus far are to try to surround yourself with people who are about something in life. Especially those who are doing what youâ€™d Love to do. My uncle once stated to me, â€śSon, youâ€™ve got to be about something in life. When youâ€™re not about something in life, then youâ€™ll be about nothing, whether your ridinâ€™ or walkinâ€™.â€ť
I also learned that youâ€™ve got to keep on going, even when you canâ€™t see the light at the end of the tunnel. The light is there, even when you have to create it in your own mind. No one, I repeat; NO ONE can take your light away from you! When I say light, Iâ€™m describing your Dreams and Passions. And donâ€™t be afraid to just go for it. Nothing is ever as scary as it first appears. There IS a lifestyle that youâ€™re supposed to be living so, make it happen. We only have but one life so, why not?
How does it feel finding what you love to do and doing what you love to do?
It feels wonderful! It took some time to find it, which taught me patience. I had to keep in my mind that there IS something out there that I would Love to do. Mentally, I was preparing myself for this opportunity and just to know that I'm working towards SOMETHING has kept me going. Like anything new, I get the butterflies in the stomach but to me, that means I get to learn something new that will make me much happier in my own life. I'm not attempting to be wealthy however, I will be rich in my heart and the fruits of my desire will come. Reginald Lewis stated, "Always keep going, no matter what!" Thinking in a forward motion keeps the ball rolling.
What kind of advice would you give to those who are still on the journey of finding what they love to do?
Hang around people who "appreciate" you. Stay away from people that may, "depreciate" you. When seeking out your desire, itâ€™s nothing worse than people shooting your ideas down, discouraging you from your own creativity. I'll suggest something that Christopher Gardner, author of Pursuit of Happyness, stated during an interview that I really liked:
"Forget about the money. You've got to find something where the sun cannot rise fast enough for you to get to."
When you have a desire or passion, itâ€™s your seed to plant and grow. "The moment you feel that you need approval regarding your desire, idea or passion, its over."
So, whenever you have an idea or desire, just go for it. Don't wait for someone else to verify your passion, just do it. To the Readers: Right here, right now, I could offer all of the advice in the world, but as you read this, I hope that you understand that it's ultimately up to you to act upon your Passion. No one else will act for you. Whenever youâ€™re prepared to act, Keep the ball rolling and don't stop.
Any last pieces of advice you want to give to motivate and inspire others to go for their goals and dreams?
You know, as a Barber, people sit down in my Barberâ€™s chair and ask me this quite often. I say, it all begins with the individual. What have you learned within the past 6 months? I have had many struggles just like any other human being.
Brian, some of the best wisdom, in my opinion comes for learning how to give. What works for me is my ability to Give back to others. You never know what a smile, a compliment or a hug can do for someone. It makes you feel good inside also. Receiving is good too but, itâ€™s not always about what we want or need.
Again, itâ€™s best if your Honest with yourself. If there is anything that you want to do in life, just do it. The only person that can get in your way is yourself.
Another powerful tool is Listening. Listen to yourself. Take a moment and just Listen to what someone has to tell you (aside from gossip) and you may learn something today. Travel as much as possible also. The world is actually bigger than the one you see and once youâ€™ve seen more of the world, youâ€™ll never be the same.
Brian, I thank you for giving me the opportunity to share a piece of my experiences with all of your readers. People, the great thing about Life is, that YOU have the power to enjoy it!
Thanks again Brian. If anyone would like to contact me, they may at
First off, I want to thank Soyica again for taking the time to do this. I really appreciate it!
Looking back at his answers, thereâ€™s a lot of great pieces of advice you can extract from them, especially the part about giving.
From those many pieces of advice and also from our correspondence via email, I got the impression that Soyica is a man of strong faith and thatâ€™s what I want to briefly touch on before I end this post.
Regardless of whatever religion you practice, having faith that things will work out fine is one of the most powerful things a person can have. But I think for most people, faith is a tricky concept because to the logical person, it seems very illogical. How can you have faith something will happen when you canâ€™t know for sure?
Iâ€™ll let Steve Jobs answer that question.
â€śYou canâ€™t connect the dots looking forward. You can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever, because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path, and that will make all the difference.â€ť â€“ Steve Jobs
If you havenâ€™t found what you love to do, have faith that you will. The dots will connect.
If youâ€™ve found what you love to do, but youâ€™re hesitant to go through with it, have faith that it will turn out fine if you do. The dots will connect.
The dots will connect.
Thanks again for sharing your story with us Soyica! There's a lot of great advice you gave that I know will benefit the people who read it.