When You Feel Down About Going for Your Dreams, Read This
By: Brian Kim - September 29, 2006
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If there’s one thing that I wish to impart to those who have started down the path toward the fulfillment of their dreams, it is this: appreciate the journey.
One of the traps that many people fall into is focusing too much on the end goal in terms of only thinking that fulfilling it is a sign of success and disregarding everything else. People get discouraged because they don’t see the accomplishment of their end goal in the near future. It does take time.
This kind of thinking is further exacerbated when people ask you where your results are. Show me the proof they say or what have you accomplished so far? You’ll find that the majority of the people outside of you only care about what you’ve done, but don’t let that kind of thinking get to you because it can backfire. We need a pat on the back every now and then, even though our final objective has not been fulfilled. The exact prescription for those pats on the backs that will keep you going is the journey.
Every now and then along your journey, just sit down and take into account what you’ve done so far. You’ll be surprised at how far along you’ve come. You will have picked up a rich cornucopia of knowledge, contacts, skills, opportunities to test your resolve, experiences of triumphing over obstacles, etc., that you never would have got before had you not undertaken this journey of yours.
Make no doubt about it though, mistakes will be made along the journey. You might fall into heavy debt if you were trying to start your own business, you might go bankrupt, you might get rejected hundreds of times, people will mock and ridicule you, but that’s all part of the process. All of this is meant for two things. To separate those who really want it from those who don’t and to see if you learn from the lessons that are hidden within each mistake.
Every experience along your journey is meant to teach you something to propel you forward. Each time you feel depressed, it’s a sign to remind yourself of why you’re doing what you’re doing, to further reinforce the drive in you that keeps you going. Each time you encounter an obstacle, it’s a test to see how bad you want it and how smart you are in figuring out what to learn from it. Each time you are ridiculed from friends and family for following your dream, it’s a test to see how firm your foundation is and it presents another opportunity to fortify it even further.
If you focus too much on getting to the end goal, you’ll misinterpret all the things that happen along your journey. You’ll become frustrated because the end goal you so desperately want to achieve is not coming as quickly as you would like it to. Step back, breathe and realize that everything is part of the journey. Appreciate it. Be thankful for it. The mistakes, the setbacks, the small victories, the lessons learned, the new people you meet, the new knowledge you’ve gained, but most importantly of all, appreciate the fact that you found the courage to start and advance toward the direction of your dream. You’ve chosen the path that few take, the path of living YOUR dreams, not the ones that others have laid before you.
Appreciating the journey is a powerful frame to keep you going. It implies a beginning, middle, and end. You’ve already started and now you’re just in the middle and the end is inevitable. Keeping in mind our journey constantly reminds and encourages us that we we will get there.
Appreciate the journey because it is teaching you everything you need in order to get to your end destination. Don’t get discouraged because you equate your achievement with the attainment of your goal. You are already achieving. If you take stock as to what you’ve learned and accomplished so far, you’ll realize that you’ve underestimated yourself, that the limits you imposed only exist in your mind, and that you are truly making progress. Nothing breeds progress like progress.
The longer you stay on the journey, the wiser, the stronger, and the more determined you will become.
Then when you accomplish your dream, when you make it a reality, you will come to realize one thing and that is: the journey has truly SERVED YOU.
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18 Responses to “When You Feel Down About Going for Your Dreams, Read This”
September 29th, 2006 at
Cervantes once said, “The journey is better than the inn.”
Rabinranath Tagore proclaimed:
“I slept and dreamt that life was Joy.
I woke and saw that life was Duty.
I acted, and behold, Duty was Joy.”
I’m a Christian and in my view Christ called us to strive for perfection… I will never reach that perfection BUT oh, my life improved so much since I started trying to reach for it… just as the Bible says (Matthew 11:28-30):
28″Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
The Yoke, the Duty and the Path become such great Joy when you surender to the Goal an try to live each day in the Present moment.
September 29th, 2006 at
One of your best articles so far
September 29th, 2006 at
Incredible entry and extremely relevant to me right now… I’m moving early next week w/o an apt or job lined up, but am gonna have one hell of a ride figuring it all out!
October 1st, 2006 at
I found my self often getting discouraged as I was working on the project because I didn’t see immediate results, and you are right appreciating the journey can be a great skill to develop, as often our goals are quite far away to see something immediately. Keeping that motivation going is the real trick.
Alex
October 2nd, 2006 at
This is a truly wonderful post! It is just what I needed to hear (read) this morning!
Thank you so much!
October 2nd, 2006 at
Peter, Thank you very much for adding on to the post with your quotes. It adds a bit more flavor to it
Jonathan, it’s always nice to know
Thanks.
Brian, I have no doubt that you WILL figure it all out.
Alex, I couldn’t agree more. Motivation should be a daily part of everyone’s lives.
Lisa, Glad I could be of service
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July 21st, 2007 at
Oh,who you are? each of your article are useful!
July 23rd, 2007 at
Hi Bridget,
Thanks for the kind words. I really appreciate it. And thank you for mentioning my articles on your site so other Japanese (it looks like Japanese) people can read about it.
Very nice choice for music on your site too. (My Sassy Girl was a great movie
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October 9th, 2007 at
A truly inspirational article. It is true that sometimes we focus too much on our end goals, getting discouraged because we do not see it happening as fast as we would like it. However, when looking back, one realises what a long way one has come from the point of departure till now. Thank you for such encouraging words. Natasha
February 26th, 2008 at
Thank you for your encouraging words. My husband suffered a stroke is due out of hospital today after 3 months. This is a whole new life for both of us. I have given up my job to care for him.
So far it has been a hell of a ride and destination is still unknown - you wouldn’t get this from a travel agent!
March 14th, 2008 at
Natasha,
You’re very welcome.
Sheila,
You’re very welcome as well.
I’m so sorry to hear that your husband had a stroke. I’m glad he’s doing ok now and that he’s out of the hospital.
A whole new life awaits you both like you said and I know that it’s one where you will make the best of it!
September 12th, 2009 at
Thank you so much Brian.
You are such a wonderful mentor for those who have big dreams in their lives (like me).
You’re article is very encouraging. More power to you!
September 15th, 2009 at
You’re very welcome Edsil!
I’m glad the articles have helped!
September 25th, 2009 at
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January 12th, 2010 at
“Each time you feel depressed, it’s a sign to …… to fortify it even further. ”
This reminds me why I am following my dream.
Thanks a lot Brian.
January 27th, 2010 at
You’re very welcome Vitor. I’m glad you’re following the dream!