The Power of Resisting Temptation
By: Brian Kim - December 10, 2008
By: Brian Kim - December 10, 2008
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The word temptation sure covers a lot of ground so I will just narrow the field down for the purpose of this article. The temptations I refer to here in this article are those that habitually lull you into a state of relaxation and escape.
Now, there’s nothing wrong with relaxing and escaping once in a while. Who doesn’t like to drink a beer to relax and watch a TV show to escape?
But if you find yourself reaching for too many beers and much too often for the remote, when you know you should be doing other things, you’ll find that it’s turning into a temptation you can’t resist.
And each time you cave into your temptations, you reinforce the belief that you’re not strong enough to resist and it starts to take root and become habitual.
These kinds of temptations lull you into a state of relaxation, inaction, “down” time, where you’re completely oblivious to your surroundings and because of that, you lose out in terms of being able to take advantage of opportunities had you been aware of what’s going on around you.
But in order to take advantage of those opportunities, you need to be striving for something to begin with in order to see those opportunities and that brings us to the remedy for resisting these kinds of temptations.
You must simply desire something greater than your temptation.
Your desire MUST be greater.
It can be for anything, but again your desire MUST be greater.
Let’s say you’re stuck in a dead end job and you’re looking for a better career for yourself.
Coming home after work, it’s easy to order that pizza and drink those beers and watch the latest episode of whatever is on that night. It’s very tempting.
But your desire for finding a better career for yourself is far stronger.
So you resist that temptation and instead head to the bookstore to read some books on how to find the work you love to do.
Now obviously, had you caved to your temptation, you never would’ve done that. You never would’ve taken that action. You just would’ve succumbed to that state of relaxation.
Now let’s say after reading the book, you decide to apply the advice in it that talks about informational interviewing. You decide to find people in careers you think would be well suited for you to see if it would be a good fit and ask those people questions about it.
Again, you come home from work tired, thinking about canceling that informational interview you made with the person who’s working in finance, but you resist and go on the interview.
The interview goes well, it seems like a good fit, and what’s more, the person you interview mentions there’s an opening for an entry level position at his firm.
Now do you think the next time this person comes home, the temptation to just kick back and relax will be as great?
No.
Because he’s got momentum now.
Things are happening. He’s got to polish up his resume and brush up on his interviewing skills for the job that will take him out of his current dead end one.
Now obviously this is all a fictitious example but it’s there to prove a point.
If you don’t resist your temptations, you will always sink to the level of relaxation where nothing gets done and you lose out in terms of opportunity costs you don’t even see.
But if you desire something greater and resist your temptation just ONCE, and you focus your energy on that something you desire, you start seeing those opportunities and taking action on them.
And you start getting results.
And you start getting momentum.
Which only increases your desire even more because you see the fruits of your labor and that helps you resist temptation that much more, so much to the point where it’s not even a temptation anymore – just a trivial annoyance.
You concentrate on that desire and throw yourself into whatever it is and you spot more opportunities, take more actions, get more results, in short develop HUGE momentum.
It’s hard for people who cave into these relaxation temptations to develop that kind of momentum because each time they cave, it kills the flow and they have to start all over again.
If you find yourself in a situation where you’re tempted, just take a moment and breathe.
Breathe slowly and let the energy that’s all tense, ready to be released into temptation, circulate throughout your body
Breathe and summon up the pure willpower to resist the temptation by focusing on what you desire greater than your temptation. If you do this ONCE, if you resist just ONCE, it proves to be a huge kink in the system to give you the opportunity to develop that momentum that will prove to minimize the desire to cave into your temptations.
The power of resisting temptations is the same power that ultimately creates momentum.
That momentum increases your power to resist temptation, which just goes on to increase your momentum.
And the cycle then starts to engage in your favor exponentially.
December 13th, 2008 at
Thanks for the interesting blog post. I agree that it’s possible to spend to much time escaping, even when your escape route is something you find enjoyable. However, the idea of resisting temptation requires far to much effort for most people. It’s far easier to move towards something you want than to force yourself away from something you enjoy but have been told you can’t have. Most people, when you tell them they can’t have something, want it even more. This is why most diets fail. Instead of forcing yourself away from something you like and enjoy why not try finding a balance. Move toward what you want and when you get that job, celebrate with a pizza and beer.
December 21st, 2008 at
Good article but sometimes temptations do come from something attractive which lures the individuals into it, for example say a Casino or gambling, etc which is just for fun but some people consider it as an easy source of money which is not true.
Though I don’t believe in shortcuts for making money but those temptations will your cross your path many times in your life (say an ad on how to make money in this way, etc), what kind of suggestions you offer to protect us from those because they pose significant threats to individuals these days.
December 30th, 2008 at
Great point Prasanna.
I would say the best protection is to cultivate self control, hard work and long term thinking. Armed with those principles, a person will be invincible against quick shortcuts to making money.
July 8th, 2009 at
Hi Brian,
I find that “escapism” is something, that, while we all need once in a while, is something that can act as a substitute for what we really want, and is easier than going for that something.
Look at the porn industry. It caters to one of the strongest drives we have. While I won’t argue that we ever “need” porn, it acts as a replacement for what we are all REALLY looking for…intimacy on a physical level, and connectedness with someone special. However, are there not wholesome, better ways of achieving that? Again, too much hard work and cognitive juice. Too many reinventions of the self needed to engage that someone we are compatible with.
Pizza and beer, (too much, that is, I am a fan, afterall). trashy TV, marijuana joints…again, they lull us into a sense of relaxation, where we can feel good, and perhaps dream of a better future. But, again, without utilizing any of the labour intensive efforts you mention on the site. And by labour intensive,
I am by no means being disparaging…It takes effort and work to pick up a dumbbell, a pen, an inexpensive journal, or a book…perhaps, that is what we have to do, just get over the inertia, and keep trying.
Great article, as always!
John
July 12th, 2009 at
Just a follow-up to the above paragraph, Brian. I apologize for the poor paragraphing and awkward sentence structure. It was late up here and I was tired when I wrote it! =-) John
July 29th, 2009 at
Hi John,
Thanks for sharing your points even though you were tired when you wrote it!
You make EXCELLENT points and you give a great example with the porn industry as well.
If it’s too easy - it’s easier to cave into it.
Rarely is the easy way out, the best way out.