Thereâ€™s a lot of advice out there about doing certain things that will make your life easier.
Things like just let your goal go, be â€śopenâ€ť, donâ€™t work on your goal so much, etc.
At first glance, it raises the B.S. alarms. We think it only caters to the instant gratification crowd. The advice seems a bit woo-woo and contrary to the real world.
But the thing is â€“ those things work.
Whatâ€™s the catch?
You canâ€™t apply the advice without doing the hard stuff first.
Because itâ€™s by doing the hard stuff that allows you to easily do the easy stuff and see the results.
Authors tend to unknowingly perpetuate this frustration because they offer this advice and they say if you just do this, itâ€™ll work.
And it will.
BUT, the readers canâ€™t do it. They canâ€™t apply it. Because they didnâ€™t do the hard work first.
Hereâ€™s a classic example.
The idea of acting on your flashes of intuition.
When I first heard that principle of an idea flashing in your mind that will help you achieve your goal, I scoffed. This was way back when I was a mere child. I thought it was hocus pocus talk.
But I tried it to give it a shot and it never happened so I dismissed it.
Fast forward many years later, when I actually focus on a SPECIFIC goal, remind myself of it continuously, take action on it, think day and night about it, the flash of insight eventually came.
And it was brilliant.
And notice the big missing piece here.
I didnâ€™t do any of that other stuff before. My goal was vague, I thought about it once in a while, never really took action and lo and behold, the brilliant idea never came.
Itâ€™s as if the self improvement industry is split into two camps. The â€śhardâ€ť and the â€śsoftâ€ť.
The â€śhardâ€ť camp is all that we are familiar with, the â€śreal worldâ€ť stuff like taking action, discipline, persistence, etc.
The â€śsoftâ€ť camp is all that is unknown, the stuff thatâ€™s hard to swallow â€“ letting go, trusting in a higher power, having faith it will all work out when things seem their bleakest, etc.
Itâ€™s as if the two camps butt heads completely.
We donâ€™t really trust the â€śsoftâ€ť camp and when we try it out, it inevitably fails.
And we donâ€™t consistently apply the advice we hear in the â€śhardâ€ť camp, so we never get to a level where we can truly apply the advice in the â€śsoftâ€ť camp.
And therein lies the catch 22.
You want life to get easier by trying to apply the â€śsoftâ€ť camp advice directly from the get go, but you canâ€™t really successfully do it until you apply the â€śhardâ€ť camp advice.
But itâ€™s rare for people to successfully apply the â€śhardâ€ť camp advice to get to the point where they can apply the â€śsoftâ€ť camp advice.
The only way out of it is to start in the â€śhardâ€ť camp first. Really master it. Appreciate the fundamentals. Honor the timeless wisdom in it.
And when you reach a point where you have mastered it, you find yourself successfully applying what you learned in the â€śsoftâ€ť camp with greater ease and with results this time.
And you no longer see the two camps as butting heads all the time but you see the great synergy between the two and how one leads to another.
Life doesnâ€™t get easier â€śdirectlyâ€ť.
You canâ€™t start from the beginning and hope to take advantage of all the â€śsoftâ€ť camp advice directly.
You must apply the â€śhardâ€ť camp advice to be able to easily apply the â€śsoftâ€ť camp advice and see the results.
And as Iâ€™m reading over this to proofread and correct spelling mistakes, I know that this might sound confusing to some people.
And for others, it will make perfect sense.
I donâ€™t think this is one of those things you can really articulate.
And for those who have mastered the â€śhardâ€ť camp and have seen the fruits of applying the advice in the â€śsoftâ€ť camp, and have stumbled upon the same realizations as this article, they will understand completely what Iâ€™m talking about.
If this is flying over your head, it might be because you still havenâ€™t mastered the â€śhardâ€ť camp yet. Keep at it. And youâ€™ll find the â€śsoftâ€ť camp advice you read will begin to make more and more sense. You will look at it differently now and when you apply it, you will see the results.
Remember, life doesnâ€™t get easier directly.
Itâ€™s always hard before it gets easy.