First off, let me state unequivocally that I donâ€™t believe in luck in the way that most people do. What I mean by that is I donâ€™t believe that certain people are favored in life due to some mystical cosmic force that causes good things to always happen to â€śluckyâ€ť people.
The reason why I used â€śluckyâ€ť in my title is because of lack of a better word. In reality, I believe that people are directly responsible for creating their own favorable circumstances in life that other people like to label as â€śluckâ€ť as the easy way to explain why they always seem to get the breaks in life.
I think itâ€™s safe to say that everybody wants favorable circumstances in their lives. So how can you create them?
Here are five things that you can do to create favorable circumstances in your life.
1. Have the right state of mind.
Whatâ€™s the right state of mind?
Expect good things to happen to you.
Remember, always remember, that you have the power of choice here. You, and only you have the great gift of how to interpret the events in your life. By expecting good things to happen to you, youâ€™ll automatically block out all the negative things and cease to dwell upon them.
For example, if youâ€™re stuck in traffic and you have the state of mind of expecting good things to happen to you, you wonâ€™t slip into a negative angry, complaining state.
Instead, youâ€™ll pop in a cd on personal growth or listen to a foreign language tape, thereby maximizing your time in traffic. The time you spend on listening to those tapes can help improve your life. By learning a foreign language, you may get a promotion at your current job or get a better job offer elsewhere. By listening to self improvement audio cds, youâ€™ll be essentially investing in yourself and learning how to maximize your capabilities, which will most definitely translate into favorable circumstances later on in life.
Another benefit of having the mindset of expecting good things to happen to you is that you will begin to see them. How great is that? Let me give you an example of what Iâ€™m talking about.
Letâ€™s say on your way home, you see the oil change light in your car blink. Youâ€™re too tired to go to the local mechanic to change the oil so you put the expectation of changing your oil in the near future in the back of your head. On your way to work tomorrow, guess what? Youâ€™re going to see oil change advertisements everywhere you drive. The funny thing is even though youâ€™ve taken the same route to work for months, youâ€™re beginning to become aware of all the places to change your oil on the way to work. The truth is that they were always there to begin with. Because you had the future expectation of going somewhere to change your oil, your mind â€śopenedâ€ť your eyes so to speak, to the various places to do so, even though they were always right in front of you.
By that same principle, by having the expectation of having good things happen to you, youâ€™ll begin to see the opportunities that lie right before your eyes.
However, some readers may be asking this question. How can I expect good things to happen to me when bad things always happen to me all the time? My answer to that is simply to start small and build off of each and every good experience that you have.
For example, if you find a penny on the floor, congratulate yourself and reinforce the belief that good things happen to you. You found a penny! Youâ€™re 1 cent richer!
All the lights on your way to work are green! Youâ€™re the king!
I know it sounds kind of silly and childish but donâ€™t hesitate to seize any experience as an opportunity to compound the belief that good things happen to you.
If you keep on compounding on experience after experience, no matter how small they may seem, to reinforce the expectation that good things always happen to you, guess what? Youâ€™ll automatically start perceiving everything as being a good thing happening to you, even though previously, you wouldâ€™ve never thought that. The only thing that changed here was your expectation, and that makes all the difference in the world.
If you start experiencing good things always happening to you, imagine how fantastic your mood will be! Nothing can stop you because good things always happen to you. That kind of happiness is infectious. People will be drawn to you. People will treat you better and give you more opportunities, giving you even more evidence of good things happening to you. It gets you in a great cycle that truly serves YOU!
2. Create new experiences
Most people live in loops everyday. Rarely do they like to break out of their comfortable routine. Get up, shave, shower, eat the same breakfast, read the same paper, watch the same news show, go to work via the same route, do the same job everyday, eat lunch at the same restaurant with the same co-workers, come home using the same route, turn on the same TV show, eat the same dinner, and go to sleep.
Let me tell you something. If you always put in the same ingredients, youâ€™ll always experience the same results.
Mix it up. Add new ingredients. Create new experiences. Go to different restaurants. Read a new book. Order a different drink at Starbucks. Take time to map a different commute to work. Stop by a friendâ€™s house after work. Go to the beach after work. Order a different drink every time you go to a bar. Go to a different place each weekend. Expand your social circle. Try a different dish when you go to the same restaurant. Try every wine on the list of your favorite restaurant.
By creating new experiences in your life, you literally create millions of new doors that lead to countless possibilities of opportunities and experiences that may lead to countless instances of favorable circumstances.
You know as well as I do that a slight change can cause a huge ripple effect in your life. How many times have you said if â€śI wasnâ€™t at that place at that time, I wouldnâ€™t be where I am right nowâ€ť or â€śIf I didnâ€™t go to that new place, I wouldâ€™ve never met so and soâ€ť or â€śIf I havenâ€™t found this place, my life would totally be different.â€ť
Iâ€™m a big fan of creating new experiences so one day, rather than jog the same old route by the park near my place, I hopped in the car and decided to go see this one park that Iâ€™ve always wanted to jog at, but never had the chance. When I arrived and started jogging there, I immediately fell in love with it.
Grandparents were flying kites with their grandchildren, mothers were pushing their babies in strollers, kids were fishing in the lake, couples were exercising together, ducks and geese were waddling around the grass, there was cool, crisp, clean air in my lungs and shady trees to quench the afternoon heat. The whole scenery was so peaceful, soothing and relaxing. That place has given me a haven where I go not only to exercise, but to brainstorm and to write my articles and books causing a ripple effect that is permeating through the words on this screen this very instant. Who knows if I was able to write all the articles I had written so far if I had not discovered the joys of that park? A very small example to illustrate my point, but Iâ€™m pretty darn sure my readers have had similar experiences.
3. Seize the golden opportunities
If youâ€™ve been expecting good things to happen to you and youâ€™ve been creating new experiences for yourself, youâ€™ll find a plethora of golden opportunities lining themselves up right in front of you. Choose one of the golden opportunities and seize it. Donâ€™t hesitate to pass it up. Seize it and watch as it will open up whole new doors to your life.
Let me give you an example from my own experience. I got into the habit of building the expectation in my brain that good things happen to me in college. At that same time, Iâ€™ve also gotten into the habit of creating new experiences for myself as well.
When I was in school I worked part time in a job that was located on the 4th floor of the building. I would frequently go down to the 3rd floor for meetings. One day, just for the heck of it, I decided to go out another exit instead of using the same old exit. Turned out the exit door was really a door for a small office. There was a man inside and rather than just say â€śExcuse me, sorry bout thatâ€ť, I decided just for the heck of it, why not start some conversation? So we made small talk and turned out later to be really good friends. And it also turned out he was an excellent writer and editor.
We became such good friends that he offered to look over my resume and cover letter that I was using to get my first job out of school. He performed his magic on it and it turned out a hundred times better than I wouldâ€™ve ever thought.
To this day, Iâ€™m pretty sure that his input on my resume and cover letter were mostly responsible for me getting so many callbacks for interviews (sometimes I would get them after half an hour of submitting them). All because I made the decision that good things happen to me and that I would create new experiences by taking a different exit that particular time and starting up a conversation with a total stranger.
Who knew from taking such a small action, that it would affect my life in such a big way? Iâ€™m sure everybody reading this has some sort of similar story (and I would love to hear it!)
4. Persist in your endeavors
For those of you who read Napoleon Hillâ€™s Think and Grow Rich, you know about the story of the three feet from gold. To get other people who haven’t read it up to speed, here it is in a nutshell.
There was one miner who found gold while mining and was desperately trying to trace and find the mother lode of it. After much digging, the miner gave up, sold his tools to another person and left. The person he sold his tools to got the advice of a professional and found the mother lode of gold to be three feet from where the previous person had given up.
The lesson? Persist in any endeavor and it will open up doors for you that you never knew existed.
If you want tp endeavor to be the best at your job in order to get a raise or a promotion, persevere and get through it. It will open up doors on a higher level. If you always quit, you havenâ€™t gone to a higher level. Youâ€™ll always be stuck at the same level with the same level and amount of opportunities. Think of persistence as an elevator in a big office building. As you persist, you go up floor by floor, with each floor presenting different doors of opportunity until you reach the top and then get access to the “penthouse” doors of opportunities.
Let me give you an example from one of the people I met at work. This guy was working for Montgomery Wards 10 years ago at the age of 18. He was sick of his job and he wanted out. The temp agency he was with assigned him to an new job that paid more than his previous job. Guess what he did? Photocopying. 8 hours a day, 40 hours a week of photocopying. Insert paper in copier, press copy. Flip paper over, press copy. Repeat. Thousands of times. Literally.
The majority of people wouldâ€™ve quit after the first two days. Did he quit? Not him. He persisted. He persisted for one full month. He took pride in his work. He made sure each copy was legible and fully represented the original paperwork. The supervisor there took note of how diligent and persistent he was in his work and he was promptly promoted to another job with better responsibilities and higher pay. Favorable circumstances appeared to him all because he persisted.
People are one of the greatest resources on earth. Every person you network with is a potential goldmine of information and introducer of favorable circumstances that you will never have had if you operated by yourself.
How many people do you know in your social circle that got jobs just because they knew somebody who referred them to it? How many people meet the love of their life through somebody they know? How many people read the right books at the right time because somebody they knew suggested it? How many people got the help they needed at the exact time they needed it the most from the people they knew? These are all very favorable circumstances indeed.
Each person carries with them a rich reservoir of information and opportunities. Network with people and you will have effectively multiplied your resources and chances of favorable circumstances a hundredfold.
Favorable circumstances are not something reserved for a small group of special people. You, and only you, are capable of allowing these favorable circumstances to manifest in your life, so stop letting them slip by you!
Act now and watch the doors open to the new life that awaits you.