You reap what you sow. What you give, you will receive. You get back what you put in. Itâ€™s indisputable law.
We see evidence of this on a daily basis. We get angry at a person, they get angry at us. We treat others with respect, we in turn get treated with respect. If we are nice and courteous to others, others are nice and courteous to us.
Now when it comes to money, people seem to hesitate in believing that this law still holds true. People seem disinclined to give their money away, whether to a charity, religious organization, or any other worthy cause because they believe theyâ€™ll never see their money again, that itâ€™s gone the moment they give it away and that they’ll never get it back. Itâ€™s as if thereâ€™s a mental block that some like to label as selfishness, greed, hoarding, fear, whatever you like to call it.
Why do people hesitate to give their money away?
Because they donâ€™t immediately see what the return is that they get.
Before I continue, let me make something VERY CLEAR. You will ALWAYS, without a shadow of a doubt, get something in return for what you give and that law holds true for money just like everything else.
You see, weâ€™ve been conditioned to only give out money when we immediately see what it is that we get in return. We pay for gas because we immediately see the returns of using that gas to visit our family, our significant other, to commute to work, to run errands, to go on vacation, etc. When we pay for that candy bar, we get that sweet taste in our mouth within seconds. That sweet taste is the return we immediately derive from giving our money to the cashier. When we pay for that tennis racket, the countless number of tennis games we can play with it is the return we immediately see.
But when we give money away to a homeless person, to a religious organization, or to a charity we donâ€™t immediately see the return we get, and whatâ€™s more people donâ€™t think that they will ever get a return.
But donâ€™t you see? Thatâ€™s the beauty of it. You choose to give your money away despite the fact that you donâ€™t immediately see the return you get. You canâ€™t possibly see how that money will come back to you but it does. Remember, it is law. If it works for everything else, what makes you think it wonâ€™t work for money?
But still, people are skeptic. If that law is true they say, does that mean when I donate, letâ€™s say $20 to the Red Cross to support victims of Hurricane Katrina, that another $20 magically appears in my wallet as soon as I give it out? No. You see, this kind of skepticism serves to weed out the people who have that genuine spirit of giving as opposed to those who donâ€™t. What do I mean by genuine spirit of giving?
When you give without expecting anything in return.
If you genuinely give your money away, that kind of genuine generosity spills over to other areas of your life. You become more generous with your time, words, and actions toward your friends, families, and coworkers.
Compare and contrast those who willingly give money away to a worthy cause because they want to as opposed to those who refuse to give a dime away because they donâ€™t see how it will benefit them. Compare their personalities. Is one more selfish than the other? Would people be willing to help the selfish one? Is one more caring and helpful than the other? Would people gladly help the one more caring and helpful? Absolutely.
If youâ€™re willing to help a total stranger living thousands of miles away without expecting anything in return, how much more will you be willing to help those that are close to you? And when you help those who are close to you by giving them your time, money, support, sympathy, anything, you will get back the money you gave away.
It might not come back in the form of money, but something even more valuable. You become so generous with your friends that they help you get a better job with more pay. That increase in pay is the return you get. If youâ€™re generous with your coworkers, they might nominate you for worker of the year and youâ€™ll get a raise. That raise, when added up for the remainder of your stay at that company will probably be worth hundreds, if not thousands of more dollars than what you originally gave. That is the return you get. If youâ€™re generous with your friends, you will cultivate a friend for life, something priceless that canâ€™t be compared with the money you gave away.
You see, itâ€™s difficult for me to give you a â€śone glove fits allâ€ť theory of how you will get back what you gave, but mark my words, it will happen in one form or another, because youâ€™ve been able to overcome the selfish conditioning that money seems to have on people.
You see, the point Iâ€™m trying to make is if you give away money purely because you want to, thatâ€™s the key, not giving out money because you expect to get something back, but doing it purely out of want, youâ€™ve been able to conquer the quality of selfishness that seems to condition the majority of people when it comes to money. Selfish thoughts of â€śWhatâ€™s in it for me?â€ť
It takes a lot to be able to overcome that negative conditioning and the only way to overcome that negative conditioning is to develop a willingness to give. Because you want to. Because you genuinely want to. Thatâ€™s the key. Itâ€™s that wanting to give, that mentality that will help you get your return.
You know what happens when someone genuinely gives?
They will inevitably get their return and when they do, they will link that blessing to their giving, which further reinforces their drive to give. It will strengthen their belief that giving always leads to receiving so they will be more inclined to do so.
Let me give you an example of what Iâ€™m talking about. A friend of mine bought me and a few other friends lunch one day and he did it purely because he wanted to. He had no hidden agenda, no favor to ask, just wanted to spend some time with his buddies and catch up.
A few minutes later, he got a business call and stepped outside to talk for some time. When he came back, he was grinning from ear to ear because he basically landed a small gig that paid $500. Hereâ€™s the key point. When he came back to the table, he said with a big smile and I quote â€śIf you give, you shall receiveâ€ť. He linked up the giving away of his money to buy lunch for us to receiving that $500.
Now did buying that lunch cause that call to come? Logic dictates that it had no influence whatsoever. I fail to see how buying lunch at a restaurant for a bunch of friends can compel someone who lives 50 miles away and has no idea he is doing this to pick up the phone and call him to offer a job. The events were neutral but he analyzed them to confirm his belief that giving truly leads to receiving, often more than what he gave.
Now hereâ€™s the cool part. Would he have still gotten that call had he not bought us lunch? Logic would dictate yes as the events were unrelated. And when he did get that call, what would he have chalked it up to? Something totally unrelated to giving.
Maybe luck or just another business call or maybe itâ€™s a good day. He wouldâ€™ve never associated giving with receiving and that might have prevented him from doing future acts of service.
You must develop a genuine desire to give.
What that means is to give because you want to without expecting anything in return.
If you do that, your genuine desire to give will spill over to other areas of your life naturally.
That helps contribute to your inevitable return which comes in the form of money or of some other shape, which will then magnify your experience and strengthen your belief of the law of giving and receiving.
Your belief gets magnified because you link the blessing you got to your giving so you do it again and again and you keep on getting because you keep on giving.
The important thing is that you FIRST overcome the selfish conditioning that money brings by developing a desire to genuinely give.
Now after reading this, some might jump to the wrong conclusion of thinking that if they give, theyâ€™ll receive more, so they use that as their primary motivation to give, but that defeats the entire purpose.
Why? Because you havenâ€™t developed a desire to genuinely give FIRST. Thatâ€™s the first step. If you are giving solely for the purpose of receiving, youâ€™re only giving to get.
By giving only to get, that implies HUGE LACK on your part. If you think you have lack, you will get it. By giving only to get, you sow lack in your mind, so you will get it back.
Youâ€™re trying to skip step 1, which is to develop a genuine spirit of giving and itâ€™s the most crucial and important step because everything hangs upon it.
There are no shortcuts in life.
Not everybody can cultivate the desire to genuinely give, but if you do, rest assured, your return will be hundreds of times more valuable than what you gave in the first place.
Give without expecting anything in return, and the rest will fall into place naturally.