There may come a time in your life when you’re faced with big, complicated future changes that involve a lot of things and other people. It may involve moving, taking care of aging parents, career changes, having kids, etc., all at once. The timing and preferences of other people can complicate a lot of things.
It’s like this huge mess that you can’t wrap your arms around because there are so many moving parts to it. You can also foresee multiple scenarios happening without knowing which one to go for.
It can feel crushing when there’s so many decisions to make that will lead to so many different scenarios.
You want to figure it out all at once, you want to have that sequential plan, you want to know how it’s all going to work out, but no matter how hard you try to figure it all out, it all looks murky at best.
So what do you do with all this?
The first step is to breathe and let all the tension out.
And realize that you don’t have to figure it all out today.
You have to realize that just having the foresight to prepare for these big upcoming complicated changes is more than what most people do.
Most people live in their little cocoons until something big comes along and pops it and they find that they have no idea how to deal with it.
Way too many people let life happen to them out of the blue. It just hits them and they do the best they can to deal with it but there’s so much residual left to deal with because they didn’t plan and foresee what could happen and prepare for those eventualities.
Seeing what big changes may be needed down the road and having a rough plan for dealing with it is perfect for the time being.
The second thing to do is to get input from those involved. It’s better to “plant” this seed in their mind early so that everybody is on the same page and not shocked when the time arises and you have your plan to offer.
When everybody feels included from the get go, there’s opportunity for synergy and the perfect plan for all parties may arise. You also prevent a lot of panic and arguments from happening because the other people that are involved will probably have the same initial reaction you had in the beginning, the reaction of not knowing how to deal with this big thing.
Flushing out the details together will go a long way to a smooth transition down the road.
Now over time, you can start to nail down the details and start executing your plan in stages and that’s the most important thing to do so you’re not overwhelmed when the actual time comes.
Better to do bite sized chunks than to take it all on at once.
The truth is, all you can do is the best you can right now.
To do the best you can on that chunk for today.
And remember, a lot can happen between today and that future point in time when those big changes are set to be executed.
Things change. Choices get narrowed. The vision becomes clearer.
You don’t have to be “perfect” now.
Just work on the plan and adapt accordingly as time passes because you will get more signs and direction as to where to go next.
Trust that the way will be shown.
It’s too much to put the weight of the world and the future of others on your own shoulders.
Take it all off. Have others help. Work on it little by little.
Just put on the weight of today’s plan and once that’s done, let it go.
And finally, realize this:
That time has a way of clearing up the fog to give us perfect vision so long as we keep working on the plan.
That’s our job.
Let time and trust that you’ll be shown the way take care of the rest.